10 Best Self Help Books to Help You Become a Better Person [2021]

Read on as we show you the top 10 best self-help books for your journey to self-growth and personal development.

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10 Best Self Help Books [2021]
Source: Psychology Today

From the Romans’ early codex to the Americas’ pre-Columbian codices to the Chinese’s jiandu, the origin of books goes as far back as the clay tablets used in Mesopotamia in the 3rd millennium BC.

Books are considered to be one of the most valuable sources of information that people seek to build up their knowledge of specific areas of study.

Many benefits come with reading books. For example, not only does it help with building your knowledge, but it also helps in stress reduction, memory improvement, strengthening analytical thinking skills and improved focus and concentration, etc.

This article compiles a list of the 10 Best Self Help Books you should read to help you on your learning journey to self-growth.

1. How To Win Friends & Influence People 

Source: Goodreads

Having sold more than 30 million copies worldwide since its release in 1936, How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie is still one of the world’s bestsellers till today.

Packed with many credible advice that are still relevant today, this book has helped many leaders including well-known figures like Warren Buffet, the world’s fourth-wealthiest person and one of the most successful investors in the world, flourish in their personal lives and careers.

Type of InformationDetails
Highlight Features– No. 19 on Time Magazine‘s list of the 100 most influential books (2011)
– Sold more than 30 million copies worldwide
– Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
– Ways to Make People Like You
– Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking
– Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
Ratings– Goodreads: 4.21 / 5 
Reviews“Must read for people, like me, who are not “great” in communication and charisma. You need to allocate some attention and time to this book, as it is not from the type of books that you go through them just once. Be prepared to thorogh reading and making notes, and you will notice how your social life, I can say the whole life changes after reading merely several chapters.

Definitely in my list of 10 best self-improvment books.

For more reviews, click here.

2. So Good They Can’t Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love

Source: CamEd Business Library Blog

In So Good They Can’t Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love, Cal Newport challenges the conventional idea of following one’s passion over one’s skills and talent when pursuing a successful career.

While he mentions that matching one’s career to one’s passion is a trivial matter, Cal also holds his grounds that it how you do for a living than what you do that matters more.

One who believes that passion comes after putting in the hard work to become excellent at something valuable, Cal will teach you how to achieve career success through contemporary and scientific-based case studies.

Type of InformationDetails
Highlight Features– Compelling scientific and contemporary case study evidence
– Presents a number of compelling arguments
– Very useful ideas that can be applied in the real world
– Author Cal Newport runs the popular website Study Hacks: Decoding Patterns of Success
Ratings– Goodreads: 4.1/ 5
ReviewsDo what you love and the money will follow’ sounds like great advice — until it’s time to get a job and disillusionment quickly sets in. Cal Newport ably demonstrates how the quest for ‘passion’ can corrode job satisfaction. If all he accomplished with this book was to turn conventional wisdom on its head, that would be interesting enough. But he goes further — offering advice and examples that will help you bypass the disillusionment and get right to work building skills that matter.”
-Daniel H. Pink, bestselling author of Drive and A Whole New Mind
For more reviews, click here.

3. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

Source: Great Performers Academy

A business and self-help book written by Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change, has sold more than 25 million copies worldwide since it was first published in 1989.

In this book, Covey educates readers on how they can live life effectively and get closer to the ideal of being successful in life by aligning oneself to what he calls “true north” principles.

A highly popular read that took the US book industry by a storm, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People will help you navigate your life correctly through changing small habits surrounding independence, interdependence and continual improvement.

Type of InformationDetails
Highlight Features Has sold more than 25 million copies worldwide since its first publication
– Audio version became the 1st non-fiction audio-book in U.S. publishing history to sell more than one million copies
Ratings– Goodreads: 4.13 / 5 
Reviews“Before I started my tour-of-duty with the UN peacekeeping mission in Ethiopia and Eritrea back in 2004, I got some books to read and I exchanged one of my books with a colleague who brought the Seven Habits with him. This book literally changed my life. I was so depressed and this book gave me hope, inspiration, and meaning. I was so touched by the wisdom in this book that I gifted a copy of it to so many. May Steven Covey’s soul rest in peace!”
Ahmad Al Khati
For more reviews, click here.

4. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

Source: Goodreads

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead is a book written by researcher and thought leader Dr Brené Brown, based on twelve years of pioneering research.

In this book, Brown explains how vulnerability is both the core of difficult emotions like fear, grief, and disappointment, and the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, empathy, innovation, and creativity.

Dispelling the cultural myth that vulnerability is a weakness, but in truth, our most accurate measure of courage, Daring Greatly, will help readers see beyond winning and losing in today’s highly competitive world.

Type of InformationDetails
Highlight Features–  More than 2 million copies sold
– The #1 New York Times bestseller
– Based on twelve years of pioneering research
Ratings– Goodreads: 4.26 / 5 
Reviews“I’m glad I finally read (listened) to this, considering I’ve read most of Brown’s other books. This seems to be the big one from which almost all the others are rooted. It helped me look back and reconsider some defining situations in my life, so for that I’m grateful.”
– spinsterrevival 

“No doubt one of the best books I’ve ever read. No doubt part of that is how it has affected me at this point in my life. Basic summary: the meaning of life is best discovered through connecting deeply with other people. And the key to connection is vulnerability. If you are looking for deep meaning and deep connection, this book is for you.”
– nrt43

5. Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking

Source: Amazon

A 2012 non-fiction book written by Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking shows how our modern society misunderstands and dramatically undervalues the traits and capabilities of introverted people as well as the lose incurred in doing so.

In a world where communication, socialising and networking is very critical in our personal relationships and career progression, this book will help many you understand the thoughts and behaviours of introverts, thereby improving your personal and work relationships with them.

Type of InformationDetails
Highlight Features– Focus of Time magazine’s February 2012 cover article 
– Translated into over forty languages
– New York Times Bestseller
Ratings– Goodreads: 4.06/ 5 
– Google: 4.3 / 5
Reviews“Charm and charisma may be one beau ideal, but backed by first-rate research and her usual savvy, Cain makes a convincing case for the benefits of reserve.”
-Harper’s Bazaar

“A good read for introverts who wonder what’s wrong with them, me being one It shows insight into the reason why they are how they are ie prefer quiet solitude Susan is an academic which comes through in her writing style This book gave insight into why public speaking for me isn’t easy despite practising it for 8 years Very insightful”
Cathy Larsen

6. The Gifts of Imperfection

Source: Bethel Store

Another book written by New York Times best-selling author and professor Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection, shows readers how they can embrace their imperfections and recognise that they are enough.

A highly recommended read by the same author of Daring Greatly, this is an inspirational book that will teach you to accept yourself for who you really are instead of portraying a fake self to impress others.

Type of InformationDetails
Highlight Features– Written by New York Times best-selling author and professor Brené Brown
– Sold more than 2 million copies in more than 30 different languages 
– Named by Forbes as one of the “Five Books That Will Actually Change Your Outlook On Life”
Ratings– Goodreads: 4.2 / 5 
Reviews“Brene Brown speaks with such an authentic way that it really helps to stop pretending and claiming an idealistic perfection and to accept with joy and freedom the uniqueness of being who we are.”
– Mona M
For more reviews, click here.

7. The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

Source: Rakuten Kobo

A 1992 book written by Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts explores the five different ways romantic partners can express and experience love, in other words, “love languages”.

With the advancement of technology in today’s fast paced modern society, it is becoming increasingly difficult for people to forge stronger and more meaningful relationships.

In this #1 New York Times bestseller, Dr Gary Chapman will help you discover the proven secret that has changed millions of relationships worldwide.

Type of InformationDetails
Highlight Features– #1 New York Times bestseller 
– With over 13 Million Copies Sold
– Inspired by real-life stories
Ratings– Goodreads: 4.25 / 5 
Reviews“This is an insightful book. Very helpful for understanding how love can be miscommunicated and how to fix it.”
– Kelly Kellett

“I read this book and found myself telling my wife so much of it that I finally handed her the book and we ended up both reading it. As a result, we’ve had a better vocabulary for expressing ourselves regarding what we recognized were attempts to show love and how we wanted to receive love. It really helped us be happier in our marriage and in our other relationships.”
– Bryce

8. Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World

Source: Goodreads

With so many distractions such as social media in our highly complex world today, it can be very frustrating and difficult to stay focus, especially when you know you need to get things done.

In this book titled Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World, Cal Newport, an associate professor of computer science at Georgetown University and author of this book, will take you on a journey to seek focused success in a distracted world through memorable stories.

Type of InformationDetails
Highlight Features– A blend of formal research, stories and personal accounts about the challenges and rewards of deep work
– Very easy to read 
– Interesting stories of successful people like Bill Gates
Ratings– Goodreads: 4.19 / 5
Reviews“I’m a CS student and I’ve read this book thrice in the last year or so. The key takeaways are hard pills to swallow; but if you try to change your life to achieve depth, the results are breathtaking. Simply having your own deep-work routine, whenever that might be works wonders in your personal and professional life. As a student, I’ve seen a GPA boost and better focus levels. I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to accomplish great things in life.”
Shivansh Suhane 

“This is the only book that I would recommend to everyone who wishes to accomplish great professionally. This book explains why it is important to do deep work in today’s times and why it is a critical skill that everyone must cultivate. In today’s times, everyone is distracted. The irony is: People are busy enjoying the creativity of people who have done massive deep work. The compulsion for pleasure is making people distracted and it is going to affect their professional lives in future. This book is a must-read! Love to the author.”
Pankaj Kumar

9. Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

Source: Saddleback Parents

Are you someone who finds it difficult to reject others or say no? If so, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life is the book for you.

Written by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, this book will show you how to set healthy physical, mental, emotional and spiritual boundaries with your parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even yourselves.

Type of InformationDetails
Highlight Features– New York Times Bestseller
– Over 2 million copies sold 
Ratings– Goodreads: 4.2 / 5 
Reviews“A super awesome life-changing book! Deals with almost all spheres of life in saying “no” . The book focuses on the fact that, ” an internal no nullifies an external yes. ” I really believe every person should read this book once in their lifetime. I came to know about what my boundaries are and how to implement them. It has made me more responsible. The use of stories to illustrate relatable life situations makes it more lively! I have taken screenshots of some excerpts from the book to keep reminding myself about my whereabouts and responsibilities!”
Kanika Sachdeva 

“A well researched and balanced book. Nicely presented on everyday life aspects. Deeply divided into different tiers of present-day demands. I love it. Recommended and later given to me as a gift by a trusted friend from the UK who empathised with my end to end work schedule here in Africa. It opened my eyes. LANES are important! I endorse it!!”
Kenyanito Dudi

10. Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones

Source: James Clear

Written by James Clear, one of the world’s leading experts on habit formation, Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones opens your eyes to practical strategies to teach you how to form good habits while breaking the bad ones.

Known for his ability to distill complex topics into simple behaviors that can be easily applied to daily life and work, Clear draws on the most scientifically proven ideas to create an easy-to-understand guide for making good habits inevitable and bad habits impossible.

Type of InformationDetails
Highlight Features– Recommended by many authors and entrepreneurs such as Taylor Pearson (author) and Noah Kargan (Founder/ Sumo)
– Learn how to make time for new habits (even when life gets crazy)
– overcome a lack of motivation and willpower
– Show you how to design your environment to make success easier
– Help you get back on track when you fall off course 
Ratings– Goodreads: 4.36 / 5 
Reviews“A wonderful self-help book written in plain and simple English. James Clear connects with the reader very well as most of what he has written will be very relatable with each reader. Moreover, he also explains various techniques on developing and sustaining a good habit and also gives tips on how to break bad habits. He also uses various diagrams and graphs which I found to be very useful. I do not want to reveal and of those interesting facts…Read it if you want to be more productive:)”
Adarsh Karan 

“So Insightful, we need not look at ourselves from others point of view but get a first-hand look at ourselves & build everything about ourselves quietly. A great way to get better at anything & everything we do. Gives real-life examples for easy practical understanding. A very easy simple but powerful book.”
– Sandy V


Living in a vastly complex and fast-paced modern world is no easy feat. It takes a lot of self-reflection, constant learning, and an understanding of ourselves and others to set the correct direction we want in our lives.

Hence, we hope that the above recommended 10 Best Self Help Books will help you find the answers to your doubts as you progress in your journey to self-growth and personal improvement.

In addition, SBO also welcome any feedback and reviews regarding your experience with the listed books.

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